Okay, so saying it nice can be a challenge based on some of the feedback I received from friends. Why? Well sometimes we get tired of saying it nice all of the time. And why do we get tired? We get tired of being nice simply because being nice doesn’t always get our needs met. Back to the subject of spouses, how many of you have asked your spouse to not do something, “nicely,” only to discover that they do that same thing again within a matter of days or even minutes.
How does that make you feel? Unheard, insignificant, disappointed, or even angry all at the same time.
Your reaction to those feelings… typically you say whatever it was again just not so “nice,” hmmm. How many times can YOU say it nice before it comes out not so nice? And is your tolerance higher depending on the relationship and the relational investment?